One of the things it is so easy to do is to take your spouse or significant other for granted. The divorce statistics reinforce this statement. As a matter of fact, according to Divorcestatistics.org, “Current divorce statistics in America is estimated at 50%. This data is not totally correct, however, it is reasonably close to actual. The Americans for Divorce Reform estimates that "Probably, 40 or possibly even 50 percent of marriages will end in divorce if current trends continue.", which is actually a projection. Commonly said, 50% of all marriages in the America end in divorce.”
Margaret Atwood put it this way, “A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there's less of you.” One thing you don’t need or want when it comes to changing careers is to end up going through a divorce. Having a supportive and loving marriage partner or significant other is very important to keeping balance in your life. However you do have to work at it. Here are four suggestions that can help you keep your marriage strong and happy.
Never Keep Score. Gary Smalley, marriage counselor recommends this one. It is so easy to remember how many times your partner “didn’t do this” or “did that.” Keeping tabs on how imperfect your partner is, is a recipe for disaster. Dale Carnegie once said that people hate to be criticized. The first principle from his book How to Win Friends and Influence People, was “Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.” This principle is an excellent guideline for keeping healthy human relations in your marriage or relationship.
Never Go to Bed Angry at Each Other. This is an easy one to violate. When arguments occur right before bedtime, it is easy to get away from it by just going in the other room and going to sleep. Experts tell us not to give into this temptation, because it sets up the opportunity for resentment and brooding about it all night long. It is best to “declare peace,” work it out, then go to bed.
At the beginning of the year, schedule your anniversary and birthdays of each other. The purpose of doing this insures that you will not forget the special dates of the year. When you put them into your calendar, it gives you the opportunity to make plans to do something special together. A healthy relationship is made up of years of happy memories. By making plans to experience happy times on a regular basis, you are insuring that they will happen.
Always Say I Love You in the Morning and Before Going to Bed at Night. The word “love” is one of the most powerful words in the human language. When you and your partner say this to each other the first thing in the morning, and just before going to bed at night, it reinforces your love and support for each other. Experts will tell you that it actually programs your subconscious mind when this message is repeated day in and day out.
By faithfully practicing these four suggestions, you will increase your chances of having a happier marriage, and avoid being part of the group of people whose marriage ends in divorce.
Tom Borg is a consultant in leadership management, team building and customer service. Please see more of his blogs at administrativejobsblog.com and businessworkforceblog.com. If you are interested in a better career in administrative jobs visit our site today job postings at Nexxt.